Kids at Weddings: the Guide
As you make your way through the wedding planning process, one topic will arise that you may not be prepared for: should you allow children at your wedding? While many brides choose to invite babies and children, others may decide not to. Either way, the choice is completely your own. To help answer this question, we spoke to seasoned wedding professionals to get their perspective.
Weighing the options: pros
“Part of the beauty of a wedding is that it brings together loved ones from multiple generations,” explains Emily Coyne. “This is one of those rare gatherings where people from very different stages of life come together in support of the couple. Including children makes this a complete joining of two families.”
Kids can add energy, excitement, and joy to the day. They’re especially meaningful if the couple has children of their own, helping bring families together in a special way. It can also make things easier for guests with children, who may feel more relaxed not having to arrange childcare.
Weighing the options: cons
There are also considerations to keep in mind. “Sometimes kids’ energy can draw attention away from the couple,” explains Emily Coyne. Younger children may require more attention, which can be tiring for parents and distracting during key moments like the ceremony.
Unpredictable behavior can also make it harder for guests to stay fully present. Some guests may leave earlier to accommodate their children’s schedules, which can impact the overall flow of the event.
Making your wedding kid-friendly
If you decide to include children, a bit of planning can go a long way.
Plan a photography schedule
Schedule photos around children’s needs. Have them get dressed as late as possible so outfits stay clean, and avoid over-scheduling before the ceremony so they don’t become tired or overwhelmed. For infants and toddlers, consider including them in photos after the ceremony.
Prepare for the ceremony
Children may feel shy or overwhelmed in front of a large crowd. If they’re part of the wedding party, consider having someone ready to walk with them down the aisle if needed.
Capture candid moments
Kids often create some of the most memorable and joyful moments. Work with your photographer to capture candid interactions and natural expressions.
Consider childcare
If your budget allows, consider a dedicated kids’ area with a babysitter. This gives children a place to relax and play, and allows parents to fully enjoy the celebration. For very young children, having extra help throughout the day can be especially valuable.
Provide activities
Set up a children’s table or designated area with games, art supplies, small toys, or treats to keep them entertained. Interactive options like lawn games, scavenger hunts, or creative vendors can be fun for both kids and adults.
Feed children earlier
Children tend to need meals and snacks on a different schedule. Offering kid-friendly meals earlier in the evening can help keep them happy and engaged.
Adult-only weddings: invitation etiquette
If you decide on an adult-only wedding, clear communication is key. Make this known on your save-the-dates, invitations, and wedding website. Share the message with close family and friends so they can help communicate expectations if needed.
Provide extra information
Consider sharing local childcare options on your wedding website for guests traveling with children. Be specific on invitations by addressing only the invited adults rather than the entire family.
Pro tip
“At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong answer,” says Emily Coyne. The decision should reflect what feels best for you and the experience you want to create. Your guests are there to celebrate you—and will support your choice either way.
Photo Credit: Jose Villa
